Thursday, December 3, 2015

Did you love her right away? "No, she crept up on me"


Rose Water Kulfi

It's been a while since I've done one of these, but I came across a story that intrigued me enough to post it ASAP. This couple just got married 6 months ago and are delightful in each other's company. They sass each other, build off each other's humor, and are all around good people.

Z and M a love profile

How did you guys meet?

Z: My friends and I were having a fun night out, and they decided to make me an online dating profile on one of those Indian marriage sites. I wanted nothing to do with it. It's pretty much parents communicating with one another on those things. I got an email from a girl whose parents grew up where my parents grew up. Turns out our parents actually knew each other and thought very highly of one another. Eventually we set up a meeting with both families.

How was that?

M: It was really really awkward. Our parents were downstairs and they sent us upstairs to talk and get to know each other.

Me: You weren't allowed to go out by yourselves?

Z: Not at all! Her dad would have killed us.

Me: You should have made some really incriminating noises to see if they would have rushed upstairs to stop you.

M: Oh Geez!

How did you propose?

Z: Our proposal was even more awkward than our first meeting. We spoke for about 4 months after our initial meeting. The whole family decided to meet up again to discuss things. I was sitting in the car with my family about to drive over to her place and they pulled a ring out on me. They said, "You like each other right? How do you feel about moving forward?"

M: Eventually we were all sitting in the living room. With the whole family saying things like "You can say no if you want, it's still a choice!". Yup, no pressure at all with the whole family watching.

How did you know each other was the one?

M: I don't think you really know until you get married. I think it's a weird back and forth and sometimes cold feet until the day actually comes. You know that person is the one the moment you actually marry them.

Me: So it's basically knowing that this person wants to make this commitment to you that makes them the one?

M: Yeah, something like that. Just do it! If you can talk, if you have fun, that's enough.

How do you guys fight?

Z: I don't know, we haven't fought yet and it's been 6 months since we got married. What is there to fight about?

Me: Not even about little things?

Z: I don't think so, those aren't really fights.

*** There was a question shot back at me for the first time since I started doing these things***

Z: What about you? Do you think you would ever do the arranged marriage thing?

Me: I don't have anything against it at all. I've seen a lot of great relationships come out of them. But I don't think it's for me. I think I'm too much of an odd duck to find what I'm looking for through those avenues. I'm still a dreamer at heart...I don't want the overly contrived, know exactly what your end goal is type of relationship. I kind of like the uncertainty and really getting to know each other part. Not that my way is any better of course! It's just a preference.

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For this awesome twosome I am making Cold Feet Kulfi...only joking. Rose Water Kulfi is the easiest Indian desert ever! Do you want all the fun of homemade ice cream with half the work?? No churning involved in this, it's closer to the Italian semifreddo...

Rose Water Kulfi
Serves Two

1/3 Cup Whole Milk
2 Cardamom Pods Crushed
1/3 Cup Heavy Cream
1/3 Cup Condensed Milk
1 Tbsp Rose Water
1 Tsp Grenadine (Optional: For Color)

1. Microwave 1/3 cup whole milk with crushed cardamom pods for 40 seconds, Strain the milk to remove cardamom (have you ever bit into cardamom?? Not a pleasant experience)

Cardamom is for hardcore people like me

2. Whisk together milk, heavy cream, condensed milk, rose water, and grenadine


Whisk it REAL GOOD!

3. Place in molds (if you're getting fancy), otherwise put in any old container and freeze for 4 hours


Place aluminum foil around the molds if you want to actually eat the stuff

4. Un-mold by placing your hands around the ring mold to warm and loosen the Kulfi. Eat the shit out of it